What is the difference in dating and a relationship
It is important to remember that neither dating nor courtship is mandated in Scripture.
In the end, the Christian character and spiritual maturity of the couple is far more important than the exact nature of how and when they spend time together.
Finally, care must be taken to avoid the pitfall of believing one’s personal preference—dating or courting—is the “only way” and looking down upon those who make the opposite choice.
As in all things, the unity of the body of Christ should be of utmost importance in our minds, regardless of personal choices others make pertaining to issues on which the Bible is silent.
While there are non-Christians who date with the intention of having a series of intimate physical relationships, for the Christian this is not acceptable and should never be the reason for dating.
Many Christians see dating as little more than friendship and maintain the friendship aspect of their dating until both people are ready to commit to each other as potential marriage partners.
In addition, some courtship situations have led to borderline “arranged marriages” by the parents and have resulted in resentment in one or both of the young people.
First and foremost, dating is a time when a Christian finds out if his or her potential marriage partner is also a believer in Christ.
The Bible warns us that believers and unbelievers should not marry each other, because those living in the light (of Christ) and those living in the darkness cannot live in harmony (2 Corinthians -15).
Of course, the courtship style presents its own set of difficulties.
While many courtship advocates see it as the only choice for finding a mate, others find it oppressive and overly controlling.