Men dating stereotypes
Some Asian men have started harassing Asian women for marrying non-Asian men, because to them, “marrying out” perpetuates the stereotype that Asian men are undesirable.
As author Celeste Ng writes in a piece for “[These ‘Asian incels’] believe they’re fighting a constant battle against a culture that’s out to get them…
Then, of course, Hollywood and pop culture reinforced this idea.
Before there wasn’t much Asian representation on-screen.
And even after the success of these game-changing movies and television shows, there is still room for much more Asian representation in media.
Now, I can see that I was surrounded by many, problematic messages about the desirability of Asian men (or lack thereof), which in turn led me to believe that they were socially awkward, passive, unattractive—and therefore not dateable.
I felt like an outsider, so much that I didn’t want to be associated or paired with who reminded me of my non-whiteness—not friends, and definitely not boyfriends.
I did date an Asian guy for two years in university, but shortly after we broke up, I went right back to dating non-Asian men.
A 2014 Ok Cupid study concluded that women find Asian men less desirable than other men on the app.
A speed-dating study conducted at Columbia University showed that Asian men had the most difficulty getting a second date. I was stunned; you can see my face as I process what the f**k just happened. And the amazing ladies sitting next to me had my back.