Dating a man who is newly divorced
Today as I listen to single women tell their stories about dating divorced men, I remember my experience well.
I see them making choices about dating divorced men similar to ones I made.
A healthy purpose for a dating relationship is to discern possible marriage.
Otherwise the dating relationship is nothing more than selfishness of either one or both people.
A good follow-up question to ask is, “If this person is still married, what is his purpose in dating me?
” At this point it can’t be to get married because legally he can’t get remarried.
Finally around , he came to the beach and explained to me that he had gone to lunch with a group of people.
Needless to say, this created a heated conversation of why he didn’t invite me to come along with him.
When the night was over I went to his hotel room to see if he was there. Then he said, “Here I am a 34-year-old man at a singles’ retreat.” That’s when I knew that dating someone who had been married was more complicated than dating someone who had not.Every year my church hosted a singles retreat in Destin, Florida on Labor Day weekend.It was the first year I went, and even though it was for singles, I was dating someone at the time, a man previously married. My boyfriend and I spent time together, but we weren’t inseparable like you might think.Even if it’s to discern marriage for a future time when he can remarry, can he commit to you the attention needed for discerning marriage?It takes time to heal from a divorce whether or not the divorce was a person’s choice. And of course the time depends on the circumstances and what was done after the divorce to heal from it properly.