Can you trust internet dating
Since online dating is logical, it also means you may have swiped left (rejected) on guys you would have felt something for had you met in person (like your boss).
Yes, online dating is taking something largely emotional and subconscious and making it logical and conscious, and it’s no wonder so many people aren’t happy! Charisma can be thought of as presence, warmth, and power.
This is very hard, if not impossible, to assess online, and even harder from a few photos and a brief bio (if you are even screening for that at all).
So, dating apps simply can’t reasonably determine if that person you’re evaluating is charismatic. Many of our female clients describe crushing on guys who have a lot of charisma.
For Tinder, one analysis found 70% of people never have gone on a date.
And, the quality of relationships derived from online dating seems to be lower.
Because of this, a lot of our attraction preferences are outside our conscious awareness.
You may have convinced yourself you like your boss because he’s into Harry Potter and other common interests, but in reality you are attracted to him because women typically are attracted to men in power.
Because, if you think about it, you attracted to five of your co-workers who also have multiple common interests.
This overlaps with charisma, but includes other factors like kindness, attitude, intelligence, and even quirkiness or something unique that just pulls you to that person.
You can kind of figure out personality from a dating profile, but it’s challenging and not accurate. Because in person you’re evaluating personality from more than just words; you’re likely picking up a vibe from a person’s mannerisms and body language, impossible to gauge accurately online.